So much of our culture revolves around what we do for a living.
“What do you do?” Is usually one of the first questions we’re asked (or we ask) whenever we meet someone, whether it’s just to make polite small talk or a genuine attempt to get to know that other person.
I’m not sure if it’s specifically a human trait, but it certainly is an American one. There are cultures throughout the world where a person’s worth is not dependent on how much value they bring to society, where the sense of identity is not necessarily tied to what someone does to pay the bills.
For writers, particularly independent writers, it’s a difficult question to answer. Most of us aren’t actively making a living by writing–at least not the form of writing that first tickled our dream nodules. Does that mean that’s not what we are? Absolutely not. It’s who we are at the core; we just need to be reminded sometimes (or at least I do. Maybe you’re more fortunate.)
When I was a senior communications specialist, it always bothered me to provide that title whenever I was asked the ‘what do you do?’ question. Eyes glazed, for one thing, and people misunderstood it, for another.
One common response was: “Oh, like telephone lines?” Or, picture Clint Eastwood reloading his Spencer rifle in “Unforgiven:” “Communication specialist? Like cables and such?” I would then explain what I did: writing for executives, contributing feature stories, lots of letters. It always sounded like a long-winded explanation or justification of why I hadn’t published more. I enjoyed parts of it, but it certainly didn’t spark a fire.
It’s also important to note that if, for one reason or another, you lose that job, you can feel stripped of your identity. That, I can tell you, is not an easy journey to reverse.
Instead, just say: I’m a writer. Every time you say it, you’ll make it a little more true. Your eyes will light up, you’ll feel engaged. You’ll remember what you’re doing and why you’re doing it. You will keep that goal alive in the midst of the rejection slips, the disappointments, the rough critiques and the monotony of working in a cubicle or delivering packages or slinging hashbrowns. Maybe you’ll even get some ideas.
Writing is a difficult calling. It can be a lonely calling. It is, almost by definition, a solitary one. We need all the encouragement we can get and it’s perfectly okay to supply it ourselves. Perhaps that response will generate some skeptical looks, rolled eyes or smirks. Who cares what they think? You’re not saying it for them. You’re saying it for yourself.